We all know one person

The journey of forgiveness for me started when I was 15.  Due to finding out one of their girlfriends became pregnant, and it was a girl.   The weeks following I had, what I thought were dreams, however in fact, they were flashbacks which I suppressed.  Evenings of being touched when I was 10.  Days of being told to "pretend" they were superhero's that had to do "things".  Then when I was 12, I told someone in which, they told me, "Everyone has secrets" and to forget about it, this was to  never happen again.   I don't believe it ever did happen again, what I do know is that it came flooding back in the instant the pregnancy was announced.   Shortly after, speaking to a school councilor, they registered me with a group with others to talk about it.  Starting privately with a therapist until I was comfortable.  Learning to speak about what happened, and with who.  I went from confused to hurt to an...

I’ve been struggling with the ability to write lately as life does not stop nor grant forgiveness when, at times we feel it necessary.  Given the last wee bit of time, reflection is a essential coping tool, and for that, I am grateful.   Everyone has a moment, in which they will be challenged to face a decision.  That outcome will be some of your most defining moments.   A friend told me in a moment of privacy the other day this; "Anger is like holding a bit of hot coal, you will always be burnt before you pass it on." Anger will consume you. For every moment I have been given the choice; Anger or to forgive, I have more often than not, chosen to forgive.  Now, I am not perfect and many times, I struggle with this.  I know for one thing, anger drains me.  I literally  can sleep for days on end, want to crawl into a small child and cry.   When I forgive though?  I feel as free as the wind which blows between the...

While I sit, in a quite space I reflect on faith.  Being that it is Easter Sunday, I see faith as a non-denominational discussion.  My question today for you is;  If we are to understand that we are created in the image of "god" and we have faith in that, why do we not have faith in ourselves?   Many discussions are centred around losing faith in ourselves, not being able to compete a task, failure at what is presented. Do we know that as much as success is part of life, the same can be for failure?  Learning and becoming better is part of the journey we travel on.  To condem failure is to condem life.   Take a moment to look back and see how that each time you've fallen, you've gotten back up.  The times that you have succeeded in the step back, you have become stronger, wiser and better. Believe in yourself and have the same faith.  

I enjoy writing about positive experiences, to show that "we all know one person" who can make a positive change in life.  Today though, I reflected on something I became lost on.   Due to my personal understanding, I know we can be a positive influence on others when we are completely unaware.   Having the privilege of speaking to someone this week about my experiences in life.  W e discussed what I have I learnt, what I've gained and where do I want to go. Firstly, "What have I learnt?"  I am adaptable.  I typically can figure out what people need and what I should do to make the best of any situation.  That's easy, I am, what they call in the the book "5 love languages", one that is "in the service of another" which makes me happiest.  You are happy, I am happy. Secondly, "What I've gained?"  Wow.. gratitude.  Gratitude for opportunities, for people, friends and experience regardless of what they are.  ...

"Show me love when I feel hate." This is the one thing that can redirect the best of intentions.  We all want to survive and become more than what we ever thought possible.  Hate is the one thing, that holds us back.  It controls us, others and never gives back.  Hate will never serve anything other than itself.  Hate destroys. Love though.. It can forgive.  Love can endure.  Love can heal.  Do not underestimate the power of it.  Love will help friends over come.  Love will help the divided find peace.  Love will show kindness in the smallest of ways.   When you see a moment where hate is growing, give it love.  Show it forgiveness and empathy.  Show how to listen and just be with hate while breaking barriers.  Love will support and encourage.   Show me love when I feel hate and I will become stronger. #Weallknowoneperson .. who overcame hate.  

As life creeps up on us, we can either stick to what we know or learn from what is around us.   I figure, for the most part, we follow in the steps of our parents and those who have an influence on us, taking their example for life. I was granted the fortitude through experience to seek out differences.  With that, I've learned how to hold myself accountable for each of the choices I make daily.  Perhaps not living by a specific religion, I've taken on the gratitude for the faith that has given me to persevere  onto the next chapter, wherever that leads.   Within life's moments, we are given opportunity to stand up for what's right, even when it can be difficult or take the path of least resistance.  The easier one, mostly at times, with the support of those around us with the same opinion.  It could be when a person has been berated and laughter by the group ensues.  Or when a fellow student has been shown in a light, not fav...

Now I want you to know, that I've done my best to live an honest life.  (sometimes faltering) I've also been privileged to have had opportunity with experience.  Some hard ones, some amazing ones, some beautiful ones.  They've all taught me one very important lesson. Class I could be referring to what you learn in a educational institution but this one is learnt by simply living.   As a young child, we were not afforded much.  For instance, shoes were a privilege and if we got to wear them, it was always for purpose.  Playing outside wasn't necessary to use them during the summer so I learnt what was necessary.  No second thoughts.  As a young woman, I faced many challenges with family.  Which I can say proudly, were over come, keeping as much dignity for everyone intact.  The path I choose to travel on this particular subject wasn't tidy but it sure was the right one. In my mid 20's life did a dramatic change an...