Holding hot coal
I’ve been struggling with the ability to write lately as life does not stop nor grant forgiveness when, at times we feel it necessary.
Given the last wee bit of time, reflection is a essential coping tool, and for that, I am grateful.
Everyone has a moment, in which they will be challenged to face a decision. That outcome will be some of your most defining moments.
A friend told me in a moment of privacy the other day this; "Anger is like holding a bit of hot coal, you will always be burnt before you pass it on." Anger will consume you.
For every moment I have been given the choice;
Anger or to forgive, I have more often than not, chosen to forgive. Now, I am not perfect and many times, I struggle with this. I know for one thing, anger drains me. I literally can sleep for days on end, want to crawl into a small child and cry.
When I forgive though? I feel as free as the wind which blows between the trees, flowing and helping to give life.
Don't hold onto something that can burn you. Let it go, let the pain go. Move on and just know that you almost lost more than the value of the anger.
That being said, I beg you to learn from this, don't hide what you are struggling with and face whatever you need to close the door.
Be the one person who helps show that moving on is healthy.
Given the last wee bit of time, reflection is a essential coping tool, and for that, I am grateful.
Everyone has a moment, in which they will be challenged to face a decision. That outcome will be some of your most defining moments.
A friend told me in a moment of privacy the other day this; "Anger is like holding a bit of hot coal, you will always be burnt before you pass it on." Anger will consume you.
For every moment I have been given the choice;
Anger or to forgive, I have more often than not, chosen to forgive. Now, I am not perfect and many times, I struggle with this. I know for one thing, anger drains me. I literally can sleep for days on end, want to crawl into a small child and cry.
When I forgive though? I feel as free as the wind which blows between the trees, flowing and helping to give life.
Don't hold onto something that can burn you. Let it go, let the pain go. Move on and just know that you almost lost more than the value of the anger.
That being said, I beg you to learn from this, don't hide what you are struggling with and face whatever you need to close the door.
Be the one person who helps show that moving on is healthy.
Oh, how these words speak to me! Thank you. I am living what I feel has been God's purpose for me now in retirement.
ReplyDeleteI see now that all the struggles through life up to this point and the climb to a successful career, equipped me with so many skill sets so I am capable of helping others He puts before me.
I also have some forgiving of others long overdue...this the most difficult.
God bless you!
I am sorry for not responding sooner but I am happy to read your words.
DeleteIt seems that our struggles in life are partly the key to finding out exactly who we are and they help us deal with the challenges that come the next day. Like developing inner strength.
Don't forget to also forgive yourself. We hold ourselves accountable for more than what is expected.
I'd love to hear how you found your purpose and what it is you do now.
Remember one thing, the longer we hold onto things that hurt us, it keeps our sights narrow, when the beauty of life is happening at this very moment.
God bless.