Toss your shame for some kindness

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 It is not our place to judge another, yet it happens daily.

As a young child, my grandmother taught me the following:

1. Respect - Always treat the janitor and CEO with the same level of respect.

2. Team work - If we do it together, it will be easier and done sooner.

3. Kindness - We are here to be in the service of others without any expectation of return.

Keeping those key words in mind, I believe we need to move forward with them as a foundation to a stronger society.  

Let me return to the opening sentence to one word..  judgement. It’s one we need to discard.  Regardless of our personal backgrounds, not one soul on this planet has gone without a struggle, and at times we hold our struggle in shame.  Mostly in fear of sharing due to judgement which can make ourselves vulnerable.

Why is that?  Why do we hold our errors in shame?  Why do we not hold them as a lesson and build from them?  Lastly, why do we not do that for others?  

It isn’t our place to cast a stone, that I truly believe doing so comes from within each of us as a reflection of our own shame.  

Today when you venture out, you may be given the opportunity to consider why someone is in a situation. Now reflect back to those 3 words I mentioned.  Lessons my grandmother taught me.  

Let’s respect everyone, including ourselves.  Let’s work as a team to help others up so they too can resolve what they are battling and finally, let’s show some kindness.  We are all here together and if we do all three, perhaps life will be a wee bit better.



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