Light

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2013 was the first time I experienced losing a light.  She brought joy and laughter to everyone around.  Her strength surpassed any woman I have known and will ever meet.  Overcoming and with all she faced, her beauty was beyond measure.

2019 took 2 of the most important men in my life.  My protectors, loves my heart.  I cannot say I've recovered, and deep down I never will.  They gave me unconditional love teaching me emotional equanimity.  Perhaps back then I didn't see it but the strength they gave, I returned as I sat with them on their last breaths along with their light.

Why am I reflecting on these moments?  

Your light is impacting those around without knowing.  Give the light to others you have been given.  Pass on the love and strength, even if you feel you don't have it.  If you feel it's not going to make a difference, trust me when I tell you.. it does.

Tomorrow will be 4 years since Dale left this world.  He went on to a place with no pain, no restrictions and unconditional love.  My heart is as shattered as it was then .. but as he would say, 

     "Nicky, do not live with regrets.  Even the tough moments are good and you, can do this." 

So I did.  



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